Originally posted here at Her Campus on March 27, 2019
How many times in vows at weddings do you hear someone say their significant other is their best friend?
You see it everywhere – love is everywhere. Especially as the weather gets warmer and the world seems a bit brighter, it seems unfair to not have someone by your side. After all, we all deserve that kind of love and support, and it can be very frustrating to not have someone, in that sense, as your ride-or-die.
First of all – stop looking for it. If life has taught me anything, it’s that you should focus on living and not searching. If you spend all of your time trying to find someone, you’ll miss all of the beautiful things right in front of you, including the people.
In my opinion, I believe that your boyfriend or girlfriend should be someone you truly care about and have a lot in common with. Your significant other should be someone who understands your thinking and your way of life and opens you comfortably to new possibilities and ideas.
If you want someone that you can be goofy with, laugh with and be comfortable with but also find strong mutual support and grow together in every way of life, you want someone who you can call your best friend.
After all, in the (very) grand scheme of things, the point of dating, maybe not now but at some point, is to figure out who you want to spend the rest of your life with. That being said, this is someone who you should love long before you make that commitment.
Your best friends are the people who care about and support you most, through the best and worst times of your life. Shouldn’t your significant other be this kind of person? After all, being with someone because you are attracted to them is great, but I love being able to comfortably be myself with someone.
Life isn’t always going to go your way or theirs, and it’s important to understand that throughout all of that, you have someone right beside you, and you do the same for them too. Mutual support and caring is friendship, and this comes long before anything romantic, even if you don’t realize it.
Platonic love can be just as strong as romantic love – the two together are unmatched.
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